I will never forget the day that changed my life, and it took a complete burn out to get my attention!
After a crazy busy morning (which had become my norm in those days) of getting five kids out the door and taking work calls before I even left the house, I finally dragged myself into work. Well not quite. As I was opening my car door, I realized I had pulled into the parking lot of the job that I had left a year before.
I sat there in a daze for a few seconds while I realized what I had done. And then I did what any intelligent, fearless and fabulous leader would do….I broke down crying… and I cried, and I cried some more, and I cried for what felt like hours. I had a complete, full blown, ugly crying melt down. I was late for work and I couldn’t stop crying… and I swore this would NEVER happen to me again!
I refused to recognize the signs that I was burning out. As a once single, divorced mom with a busy career, I had worn my busyness as a badge of honor. It had become such a way of life for me. I’m filled with such sadness and regret when I look back on those days, but also am SOOOO grateful for that experience which has brought me to where I am today.
Don’t EVER EVER ignore signs that are telling you to slow the heck down!
These signs come in different shapes and sizes with everyone. My signs came in the shape of lack of energy, zero desire to spend time with friends, neglect of both my physical and mental health, disengaged with co-workers (but also being preoccupied with work when I wasn’t even there), lack of motivation, negative thoughts about everything and lack of sleep. I kept it together for my kids, but all hell broke loose when they would go to bed at night.
If you recognize any signs of burnout, please do not ever be ashamed to ask for help. It’s not uncommon for women to experience burnout especially with all of the demands being placed on us. Balancing work and life is such a challenge that is so commonly shared amongst all of us women and we must tackle this head on!
Here are 4 things you can do to get your life balanced again and avoid your own burn out:
We only get one life, so enjoy the ride ladies. A few small actions today can help you avoid burning out tomorrow.