Divorce – I Felt My Life Was Over

I remember that moment when I felt that my life was over, my perfect storybook life.

I was married to my high school sweetheart for ten years—had two amazing children with him, a house, two cars, the whole dream… and of course an amazing future together.  But no, that too vaporized before my eyes.

After weeks of feeling sorry for myself, wondering how on earth I was going to be a single parent, pay the bills on my own, fix broken dishwashers and sump pumps (oh, that’s a whole different story)— I woke up one morning and laid in bed thinking about the day ahead of me and feeling like I just couldn’t go on.  Then I thought of the 2 little kids that were going to be running into my bedroom in a few minutes, their faces bright and happy and eyes shining. “This is crazy. I’m being ridiculous. I need to get up and get moving for them” I thought to myself

And that morning I actually started using the law of attraction, without even knowing it.  I laid in bed and visualized new beginnings. This sounds so corny, but I visualized little ole me with my two children playing outside in the sun…we were happy, smiling, laughing and loving each other.  After a few minutes of envisioning that scene – it happened. I suddenly felt a whole new sense of empowerment. If I was going to be the mother that my kids needed more than ever, I needed to put my big girl pants on….I was going to tackle my entirely brand new existence and show my kids that nothing is going to stop this super mom☺  

I wish I could say I jumped out of bed that morning and everything was sunshine and roses from that moment on, but it wasn’t of course.

But it was a little better.  And it continued to get a little better nearly every single day after I banished “Poor Carrie” out of my mind.  That life-changing decision that I made on that glorious morning opened my life to sunshine and positivity, and boy did I need that.  I wasn’t myself at work (but really, who is after their life is turned upside down), my family and closest friends were worried about my health & well-being and I had become quite the recluse.

Put your hand up if you know what that’s like (I see you out there!)

Fortunately, on this new road to recovery, I had some help.  Friends to talk to, family, etc. One of my friends recommended I go see a therapist.  I’ll be honest, I didn’t have a lot of money, and part of me thought therapists are for weak people, not for people like me.  Fortunately, I was broken enough that the other part of me agreed to go to a therapist. Little did I know another piece of the Law of Attraction puzzle was about to be given to me.

After a few sessions, my therapist encouraged me to write a list of the ten traits that my perfect man would possess.  I was like “Whoa sister” I’m not even thinking about dating right now, let alone Mr Perfect. But I’m a good patient and I wrote out the list like she asked me to and read it every AM and every PM before bed.  As time went on I spent my days visualizing this handsome stranger in my head.

About 8 weeks later, I met a man (a handsome man at that) who was also going through a divorce.  As I got to know him, I slowly checked off item after item on my list. I couldn’t believe it! I mean what are the odds of finding a guy this perfect in my small town, in my little corner of the world??

And I had friends who were searching for a man for years!  I mean they were legit angry at me because here I was with Mr Right after just a couple of months.

Now here’s the crazy thing.  I mentioned to him one day about my list, and that’s when he told me he had made a list too.  I had never heard of this before and yet we both had done it. A few months later when I would read the book “THE Secret” I would understand that we were using the Law of Attraction even though we weren’t aware of it.  And as Bob Proctor says “what you are searching for is searching for you”. Couldn’t be truer! Am I right??

I want to leave you with my final thought. You can do this.  I was no one special. I started at zero, maybe even less than zero after my divorce.  If I can pull it all together, anyone can do this. I didn’t have special training, I didn’t have a fancy education, I didn’t study success material for years before making a move.  I got help from an experienced person and I made my life better. I found my perfect partner. You can too.

My life has only continued to get better since meeting Matt.  He is so supportive and has supported me to reach dreams and goals that honestly I never thought possible before.  We all can do this, and here’s the good part: it’s not nearly as hard as you think.